Monogram of the Royal Wedding Invitation

The much anticipated wedding invitation of Prince William and Kate Middleton was released for the public to see recently. As expected, an impressive 6x10" heavy white card with gilded edges, engraved printing and invitees names hand calligraphed on the invitation. The invitation shown here for the public to see is to one of at least three wedding celebration events. The other two are by more-private invitation, and will not be released, at least until after the event.

With the popularity of wedding monograms, using initials of the bride and groom, I found the royal wedding invitation intriguing. As I discussed over the weekend with my Twitter friends Chandra Greer and Nina Jones, unlike all the monograms Real Card Studio creates for wedding invitations currently, this invitation bears the insignia, or monogram, of the host and not the couple. And furthermore, for reasons I think we can all understand, rather than the bride's family issuing the invitation, which is most traditional, closely followed by the popularity of the couple hosting their own event and thus issuing the invitations, attendance in this unusual circumstance is requested by the groom's family. 

Does this mean custom monograms using the couple's initials are incorrect? I don't think it does. Let's face it, not many of us come from royalty nor have a family crest to display. And in lieu of a fantastically famous or important wedding host (or hostess), it seems more appropriate to celebrate and feature the couple regardless of by whom the wedding is hosted.

Creating a new monogram, as a couple, is exciting. On the invitation, before the wedding, the monogram should either bear just the first initial of each person,  just the last initial, or sometimes a first and last for both. What it should never be is the bride's first initial, groom's first initial and the groom's last name initial-- that monogram would indicate that the couple is already married and she has taken his last name.  Such a monogram can only be used after the wedding, decorating the reception menu or on personal stationery to be used for wedding thank you notes, but not for the invitation or ceremony materials.

Thank you, Queen Elizabeth, for setting the correct example on use of monograms and the etiquette of inviting.

Monogrammed wedding menu letterpress printed in shadow and cement grays with orange backer and pink satin ribbon.
Typeset monogram of the bride's and groom's first initials, letterpress printed 
in grass green on Real Card Studio's Martini style wedding invitation